A couple of years ago, I decided I wanted to somehow get involved with Doctor’s Without Borders (Medecins Sans Frontieres). I was fascinated by their work, read every book about the organization and even attended an informational meeting about joining up.
In the end, I decided it wasn’t really for me after all. But during that process of learning more about it, I remember saying to a friend, “I don’t know if I’ll ever get in, EVERYONE wants to volunteer with them.” My friend looked at me incredulously and said, “Uh what are you talking about?! I don’t know anyone besides YOU who wants to do this.” Ohhhh.
That moment was a bit of an eye-opener for me. I had created a false and inaccurate barrier “preventing” me for getting what I wanted. I was holding back on taking action on something that interested me because I was convinced everyone had the same interests as me, so why would I ever get in.
The assumption that everyone has the same interests or ideas as you therefore you shouldn’t go after what you love, is crazy. It just is. Last fall, I stumbled upon the book Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert. I essentially highlighted the entire book. But here’s a couple of snippets and then please treat yourself to this gem of a book!
“Aspiring writers will often tell me, ‘I have an idea, but I’m afraid it’s already been done.’ Well, yes, it probably has already been done. Most things have already been done- but they have not yet been done by you.“
There’s only one of you. How cool is that??
Here are some other “reasons” we don’t try things or make stuff or create:
- I don’t have enough time –>but you did have time to binge watch the latest Netflix show? Just sayin’…and also, been there!
- I don’t have any money–>do you need money for what you want to do? Is there any area of your life you could cut back a bit to save for this idea?
- I don’t have the right equipment–>Is there a class? Is there a place to rent equipment? Do you really need the things you think you do for this idea/project?
- What if no one likes what I make?–>They might not, but keep on truckin.’ It doesn’t mean that your idea is not worthy. And honestly when are we finally going to let go of what others think of us. What a time suck!
When I initially had the idea for this blog, I kept stalling the process because I had this idea of writing in a cafe on my days off, on a laptop. But I don’t own a laptop, and I wasn’t really saving for one, but I do have a iMac desktop. Then one day I realized, that the cafe and laptop dream, were keeping me from writing and I ALREADY had everything I needed. I had CREATED these “barriers.”
“So take your insecurities and your fears and hold them upside down by their ankles and shake yourself free of all cumbersome ideas about what you require (and how much you need to pay) in order to become creatively legitimate. Because I’m telling you that you are already creatively legitimate, by nature of your mere existence here among us.”
Go create y’all!
Take care of YOU.
p.s. I am going on vacation! So there will be no posts for the next 3 Mondays. Also the podcasts interviews are starting to happen, so that will be rolled out soon-ish.