One of the things that worries me about roles, is how they remove all originality from a person. If you tell someone you’re a teacher/social worker/nurse/parent, you will have many assumptions made about you. Depending on the experience someone has had with someone in those roles you will be met with a variety of different assumptions about who you are. There are very few roles that are exempt from assumptions. It’s why I have always been very weary of letting any “role” define me.
Before we became defined by roles, we were just little humans trying to figure out what we liked and didn’t like. As a kid, you were constantly trying new foods, and discovering what you did and didn’t like about life. You were becoming the you, you are today. Are you a finished product now? Is there no more mystery left? Are you simply the roles that have been thrust upon you or that you chose? NO.
Elizabeth Gilbert writes, “One of the oldest and most generous tricks that the universe plays on human beings is to bury strange jewels within us all, and then stands back to see if we can ever find them.”
You are an ever evolving human. Allow this to be so. Don’t get pigeon-holed into an idea of who you are supposed to be because of a role that you play.
Never stop being curious about who YOU are, and what makes you tick. Recently a colleague started off our notoriously long nursing meeting with the question, “What delights you?” The answers were all completely unique and different, and yet every person in that room shared the role of “nurse.”
Go find those strange jewels in you.
Take care of YOU.