When life is scary, and the news is triggering, I like to reach out to my spirit heroines, (I’m not so much a “spirit animal” lady) and this week it’s been Eleanor Roosevelt. I’ve read and re-read her many powerful quotes this week. They’ve reminded and refocused me back to the work that we need to keep doing.
Currently my facebook feed has status after status of folks (primarily women) who’ve written “Me too.” We are writing that to acknowledge that we stand with the many women who’ve come out against Harvey Weinstein, that ‘if all the women who have been sexually harassed or assaulted write “Me too” as a status, we might give people a sense of the magnitude of the problem’ and to show we will no longer be silent. Because here’s what I know, when you speak about something, when you finally push through the shame and humiliation, that painful secret starts to lose its power. It loses its power over you and it takes power away from the perpetrator.
But don’t think for a second any of us felt like re-living those experiences. I literally deliberated for an hour about whether or not I wanted to write those simple words on my wall. But then I was reminded of one of my favorite Eleanor Roosevelt quotes, and I pushed through.
“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror, I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do the things you think you cannot do.”
For me, it felt like the right move. But my dear friends, you must do what is right for you. As the news continues to be disturbing and our president continues to trigger/frighten us, make sure your self-care is your number one priority and doesn’t get lost in this mess. Right now, I can be strong for others, because I have support and I’m working hard at taking care of myself the way I would a dear friend. This hasn’t always been the case, but today (for me), it is.
Remember, treat yourself as you would a dear, dear guest. Break out the nice dishes, open that luxurious soap you were given as a gift, light those candles that are gathering dust, read that book you’ve been looking forward to but “never have time for,” put up your feet, get those feet massaged, buy the nice cheese and crackers, and enjoy a good glass of wine. Don’t multi-task your self-care practices, but appreciate each thing in the moment. And then, get back out there recharged, refreshed, and ready to help others from a full place, not a place of emptiness.
Take care of YOU. Take care of YOU. Take care of YOU. Please.