Last week I stumbled upon a number of articles of life lessons from our elders. They all had a common theme, that human connection is what it’s all about in the end. I’ve always been fascinated by the clarity of “what life is all about” that people gain towards the end of their lives, or when given a terminal diagnosis. Why does it take years or devastating news for us to wake up to what matters in life? Because we think we have time.
So today as I was thinking about those lists, I wondered what it would like to create my own list of life lessons now at 39. In fact, I wondered how my list at 39 would differ from one I might have created at 29. We are ever evolving beings and while we can look at the life lessons of someone who has lived 100 years (and you really should), we also carry wisdom within us based on our life experiences and years on earth.
So today I’m going to share some of my life lessons, but honestly they might not resonate because it’s based on my own experiences. If you like, take this idea and run with it yourself. I should add that I haven’t taken a lot of time to compile this list, and it might even differ tomorrow. So for today, these are my thoughts. I’d love to hear yours!
- Being vulnerable with another who creates a safe space for your vulnerability is a true gift.
- Try and have at least one belly laugh a day.
- Surround yourself with music, play it, sing it, dance to it.
- Write in a journal what you are feeling, don’t edit it, and don’t judge it when you look back on it years ago. That was you then.
- You will not be everyone’s cup of tea, and vice versa. Nothing wrong with that.
- Say yes to the things that scare you in a good way.
- Set boundaries early with energy vampires.
- You’ve been given a voice, use it.
- Don’t be afraid of your anger.
- When emotions surface, let them surface. If you push them down they will always resurface with double the intensity.
- Therapy is a gift for yourself.
- Don’t deny yourself a piece of cake or you will end up eating a whole cake when no one is looking.
- Don’t let chances pass you by, act now. Now is all you know you have.
- Not everyone is good at traditional schooling, but don’t let that determine your worth or intelligence. It’s one style of learning. Continue to be an avid learner of life.
- Don’t be enticed by overtime. It’s a bad habit.
- You do not have to engage with someone who gives you the creeps.
- If your gut is telling you something isn’t right, trust it.
- Just because someone asks you a question, you do not have to answer it.
- Don’t overthink it.
- Practice self care every day. All day.
Take care of YOU.