Yesterday I reconnected with a friend and we reminisced about a time in our lives when we felt stuck. We recounted the stagnation we felt and the inability to move on any decisions because we were fearful. It felt good to recount those memories, because we are no longer the same people we were. Also it was important for me to notice my growth. Things that seemed so hard for me to overcome back then, are no longer as hard now.
Why am I bringing this up? Right now I know a lot of people, who feel stuck. And when you are feeling stagnant you can convince yourself that you will always feels this way. That’s the power of stagnation, it tries to convince you this feeling is your new normal so “get used to it!” But don’t you dare. What you are feeling is temporary, (repeat after me, T-E-M-P-O-R-A-R-Y) and if you don’t believe me think back to a time in your life when you had to make a hard decision even though you were terrified. You see? You are capable of pushing through your own resistance. Give yourself some credit! You’ve gotten through hard times before. And you can do it again. Change feels hard. And when you are stuck it can feel impossible. But, it isn’t.
Don’t wait to feel motivated to act. Stagnation will tell you if you don’t feel motivated something is wrong. It will say, “See, you have no energy to deal with this. Abort mission. Stay in the same place. Don’t make any sudden moves. Maybe something easier will come along!” Nope. Don’t buy it.
One of my favorite motivational authors Mel Robbins writes, “If you only ever did the things you don’t want to do, you’d have everything you’ve ever wanted.” I find comfort in that quote. It reminds me (another quote from Mel Robbins) “I’m never gonna feel like it.” Don’t wait to “feel” like making a change, it’ll never come. You just have to act.
Look to your own past to remind yourself of your strength and power. You are capable of growth. You are capable of making changes for the better, and grand adventures await you.
You’ve got this. Take care of YOU.