Sometimes you just need to wing it. Yes there is value in being prepared, researching things, and getting all the information you need. But I don’t think people talk enough about the value of winging it.
There are going to be times when an incredible opportunity presents itself. Inevitably you will start to hear everything that your fears want you to believe.
“It’s too soon.”
“I need more time.”
“I’m not prepared.”
“I haven’t had proper training.”
“I’m too young/too old.”
Don’t let those “reasons” win. In the words of Tina Fey, “Say yes and figure it out afterwards.”
Years ago, I worked at an apple orchard. I was trying to figure my life out, and it felt like the perfect seasonal job for me. They wanted me to drive a tractor with a wagon attached, carrying happy apple pickers through the orchard. Are you kidding me? Can you think of anything more joyful than that? I wanted this job bad! However there was one requirement…you had to be able to drive stick shift. I could not. However, when I saw that requirement in the ad, I called them anyway and to my delight they set up an interview. I did well at the interview and was hired. He confirmed that I could drive stick and I confidently told him he had nothing to worry about. Of course as soon as I left I realized, “Crap, I better learn.” That weekend, I did learn (thanks to the patience of a very dear friend). And I ended having a lovely stint as a tractor driver at an apple orchard.
Apply for things even if you don’t meet all the requirements, because here’s a tip, very few people meet ALL the requirements. In order to move forward in life, you have to stretch yourself, and see what you’re capable of. Surprise yourself with your audacity. Prior to getting that job at the apple orchard, multiple people had attempted to teach me how to drive stick. Nothing motivated me quite like having to be able to drive a tractor in just 3 days for a paycheck.
You also have to just pick something. Sometimes your gut won’t be able to guide you. We are always so afraid of making the “wrong” choice. You want to know what the wrong choice usually is? Being so terrified or waiting for the perfect thing to come around, that you pick NOTHING. Are you worried it won’t be perfect? I promise it won’t be. Boom, there you go. Now pick and move on.
I like to read and re-read certain quotes when I’m feeling fearful. Here are some of my favorites:
“If I waited for perfection I would never write a word.” -Margaret Atwood
“We have to be continually jumping off cliffs and developing our wings on the way down.” -Kurt Vonnegut
You’ve got this.
Take care of YOU.